A Back Door Invitation: A Hands-On Guide to Anal Play

Pay attention to the kind of lube you bring along, since some aren’t condom compatible. You don’t want to be switching from anal to vaginal penetration without cleaning yourself up in between, but if you cover up your digits when you enter her rear, you can take off the glove and go for the gold. You can also bring handy accessories like baby wipes or alcohol gel to help make clean up quick, easy and painless.

01Warming Up

The most important thing about anal play is to start slowly. Don’t look at your fingering as a way to get her ready for larger penetration. It may take several attempts before she gets comfortable with something the size of your penis, or she may never decide to be stretched to that size. Most important of all, no matter what – don’t push her.

Warm up moves are strictly exterior. Don’t try to enter her until she is good and ready! You’ll want to start by massaging her outer sphincter by simply rubbing and stroking between her cheeks to get her all warmed up. Use some lube to start out, and gently rub her sphincter with just a finger tip once she is nice and slick. This rhythmic motion will start the process of relaxing her muscles and opening her sphincter.

The First Gate To make your first entrance, use a well lubricated index or middle finger to apply steady but gentle pressure to the outer sphincter of her anus. You can’t force your way in without hurting her, so don’t push. Find the resilient edge of resistance, the point where her flesh responds your your pressure by displacing, not stretching or tearing. Once you are inside this space, take a moment and rest for a while.

Door Number Two When your wife has grown accustomed to the sensation of your finger inside of her, you can begin to explore further. You will find about an inch inside the entrance to the inner sphincter, which is controlled entirely by the unconscious body process. It, like the outer sphincter, will open with just the right amount of steady pressure. If you can’t open it up the first time, don’t fret. Move on to some other kind of play and come back another day!

02On the Other Side

Once you are past the second anal sphincter, the space opens up a bit into the colon and you have some room to explore! From inside this cavity, it is actually possible to reach the G-Spot, so if you crook your finger toward the front of her body while penetrating her anally, you might get some interesting reactions! Paired with vaginal and/or clitoral stimulation, this move is a winner if you’re aiming for female ejaculation.

03Taking It Home

Try the master’s magic move, the five-finger delight, to bring your anal play to a roaring climax. Using two hands and a lot of co-ordination, place the index finger of your right hand in your anus and the thumb of the same hand in her vagina, pressing gently against the back wall as you try to bring the two fingers together in a “C” shape.

With the left hand, insert the index and middle fingers into your wife’s vagina and crook slightly to stimulate her G-Spot. Use a “come hither” motion not only to stimulate this spot, but to put pressure on her clit with your left thumb, also forming a “C” shape. You do not need to thrust in this position! Some easy beckoning should be more than enough to rock her socks right off.

Kisses,Gabrielle MooreThe voice of Naked U · Who we are