Fisting… because sometimes your fingers just aren’t enough!
Let’s get this out of the way first. This kind of play isn’t for everyone. Before we get in to the specifics, you should know that your wife may not even be curious about fisting, let alone excited to give it a go. Fisting is an incredibly challenging and rewarding experience for any couple that endeavors to try it out, but don’t put pressure on your lover if she simply isn’t into it.
Of course, just because she has some hesitations doesn’t mean you should just give up on the idea! Fisting is something you are going to have to work up to, no matter how excited everyone is about the whole thing. There are two very important aspects to any fisting experience – lube and time. Even with plenty of both, you’ll be starting out with a finger or two and working your way up. Why not see how two, three, or four fingers feel before you make a final decision?
Lube Job
Do you pay much attention to your lover’s monthly cycles? If not, this is certainly a great reason to start. The vaginal canal tends to deepen and the cervix softens as a woman nears ovulation, so you can use the ten to twenty days after menstruation to prepare her body and maximize her enjoyment.
Start with a natural oil massage. Use an organic coconut oil and after a relaxing full body rub down, have your wife lay back on the bed with her legs spread wide, bent at the knees. Massage her perineum, the area between her vaginal opening and anus, with gentle pressure. Relaxing this area isn’t just important for fisting, but it is also a wonderful exercise for expecting mothers to prepare the birthing canal. Perform this sexy little exercise nightly until you are comfortable going further, ideally for a week or two.
When it comes time for the main event, prepare yourself with a high quality silicone lube that won’t get sticky or absorb into the skin. If you want a bit of extra slickness, try putting on a smooth latex glove. Cover your fingers in lube as you insert them, one at a time. Start with only one or two fingers, allowing the lube on your digits to coat her canal.
Ensure that whatever lubricant you choose is safe, clean, long-lasting, and most importantly designed to be used with any kinds of safe sex accessories or toys you might bring along to the party. Spot test any new lubricant to be sure that neither of you have any reaction to the ingredients.
Stretch!
Be sure to get lots of feedback as you progress from two up to three fingers. If she is enjoying three, move up to four. Be very careful not to penetrate too deep as you progress. When it comes time to move beyond four fingers, you should reshape your hand accordingly, tucking your thumb into your palm. You may also want to bend your fingertips in to your palm as well, depending on her depth and cervical softness.
This is not an afternoon quickie, so don’t try this on a busy day when you are pressed for time. Set aside several hours to relax together and enjoy your time. If you have large hands, it is unlikely you’ll make it “all the way” on the first, second, or even third try. It just may not be in the cards for you. If on the other hand you have a narrow hand and/or short fingers, you might just be in luck!
Keep Her Coming
The easiest way by far to loosen the vaginal canal is the magic of orgasm! Your multi-orgasmic lover will find fisting easier after her first, second, or third orgasm – why not try one for each finger! If vaginal orgasms are difficult for your partner to achieve, be sure to give her lots of clitoral stimulation, along with a nice long warm up. Foreplay is of the utmost importance, so be sure to hit all her erogenous zones. Now you see why time is so important!
You’ll Know
When she does come, you will know, especially if you have penetrated all the way to the wrist. If you haven’t found her g-spot, be prepared! Being so full is bound to hit all her spots, especially if you twist your wrist lightly (instead of pumping in and out). When she starts to come, she may not want any further stimulation, and you’ll have your hands full just keeping your hand inside her! If there was every a reason to be in awe of female power, you’ll know if when you feel her muscles clamp down on your hand, and you wonder if you’ll ever get it back!
Kisses,
Gabrielle Moore
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