How to Finger a Woman

I had never come from fingering that fast before

By Gabrielle Moore®4 min read

The night I noticed what my partner at the time was doing, I had to stop him and ask.

His fingers were where I had come to expect a man’s fingers to be — two of them, inside me, palm up, working my g-spot the way every man who bothers to learn about my g-spot has learned to work it. That part was standard.

What was not standard was his thumb.

It wasn’t on my clit, which is where nine out of ten men park their thumb when they’re fingering me. It was somewhere else entirely — pressed firmly, deliberately, into a small patch of skin I had never had a partner press on before.

It took me a minute to place the location. The space between the entrance of my vagina and my anus. The perineum. A stretch of skin I had, until that night, considered functionally decorative.

It is not functionally decorative.

When his thumb pressed there — hard, steady, no movement — and his fingers were simultaneously working my front wall from inside, the sensation that produced was not two separate stimulations. It was one enormous, compressed, deeper-than-anything-I-was-used-to feeling that ran through my whole pelvis at once.

I came in about four minutes. I had never come from fingering that fast before.

It took me weeks to figure out what he had done. It took me weeks after that to figure out that almost no man knows about it.

I’m calling the move the anchor.

Inside Double Fingering Delight, I show you exactly how to do it — with busty Jade and blonde bombshell Karla demonstrating on real anatomy.

01Why the Perineum Is the Missing Piece

Here is the anatomical fact almost no fingering article will bother to tell you.

The perineum — that small stretch of skin between the vagina and the anus — is one of the most densely nerve-innervated patches of tissue on a woman’s entire body. The pudendal nerve, which carries sensation from her external genitals, runs directly underneath it. The internal legs of her clitoris extend down along either side of it. The base of the urethral sponge is directly beneath it.

Pressure there does something no other single move on a woman’s body does.

It compresses the entire pelvic floor from underneath, at the same time that whatever else you’re doing is stimulating from above or inside.

In effect, it creates a sensory sandwich: pressure from your inside fingers on the front wall, meeting pressure from your outside thumb on the perineum, with the extremely nerve-dense internal structures of her genitals caught between them.

One finger inside can produce a g-spot orgasm.

One thumb on the perineum can — for some women — produce a small orgasm on its own.

Both together, at the same time, produce a compound orgasm that behaves like neither on their own. Deeper. Fuller. Faster to build. More whole-body in its aftermath.

02Why No Man Uses the Anchor

Two reasons.

One — the perineum has, in the sex education most men receive, roughly the profile of an elbow. Nobody has ever told him it exists as an erogenous zone. He has no reason to touch it because nothing in his cultural inheritance has flagged it as a place to touch.

Two — his thumb, in almost every fingering setup, is already committed. It’s on her clit. Or hovering over her clit. Or resting on her mons. His thumb has a job, and the job is not the perineum.

The anchor reassigns his thumb.

The clit does not get his thumb during this move. The clit — if it gets external stimulation at all — gets his other hand, or hers, or a small vibrator. His dominant hand, the one doing the g-spot work from inside, dedicates its thumb to the perineum.

This is a small reallocation of anatomy. It changes almost everything about the fingering that follows.

03How to Do the Anchor

  1. Get her warmed up first.The perineum is more sensitive to pressure once her whole pelvic region is engorged. Cold-start pressure on the perineum can feel neutral or slightly uncomfortable. Warm-state pressure feels charged.
  2. Pillow under her hips.Same principle as g-spot work — hip elevation opens the angle and gives your hand cleaner access to both the front wall and the perineum simultaneously.
  3. Two fingers in, palm up, on the g-spot.Standard fingering setup. Slow, firm pressure on the front wall.
  4. Curl your thumb down and back.Instead of your thumb resting up on her clit, curl it downward and slightly toward yourself. Your thumb pad should land on her perineum — the small stretch of skin between her vaginal opening and her anus.
  5. Press. Steady, firm, no movement.This is not a rubbing motion. Not a stroking one. It is pressure. Like pressing a firm doorbell — sustained, unmoving, present.
  6. Now do the g-spot work from inside.Inside fingers press upward against the front wall. Slow rhythm. Same technique as any g-spot work.
  7. Both pressures held simultaneously.The g-spot press from inside. The perineum press from outside. Both steady. Both continuous. She is now caught between the two.
  8. When she gets close, don’t change anything.Same pressures. Same positions. The orgasm builds on the sustained sandwich, not on additional movement.

04Why This Is the Move Worth Adding

Most fingering, no matter how skilled, involves one pressure source. His fingers, working from inside. The rest of his hand is essentially decorative.

The anchor turns his thumb into a second, external pressure source that stimulates a genuinely under-used erogenous zone at the exact moment his fingers are engaging the g-spot from inside.

Two fingers. Two places. One compound orgasm that most women, until they have felt it, do not know their body can produce.

Hot kisses,Gabrielle MooreThe voice of Naked U · Who we are

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