How to Finger a Woman

On the Map: Fingering her Favourite Spots

By Gabrielle Moore®3 min read

For all intents and purposes, the first day of your wife’s period is “Day One”. The guidelines that follow her hormonal changes are just that, guidelines. They are not set in stone, but general averages. Some women have long cycles, some short, but most average in the 28-29 day range.

Somewhere usually around day 10-14, the hormones that control fertility spike, causing increased lubrication and desire for sex. You can use your fingers to avoid intercourse, staying safe from pregnancy, or you can get hands-on as a way to bring her to orgasm to prime her for intercourse, if you are attempting to conceive.

This sexual tension will continue to grow until her ovaries are signalled to release an egg, and from her her fertility and natural desire will begin to wane. As she grows once again closer to menstruation, her body becomes more sensitive,

If you don’t think you have the know-how to make the first move to touch her hottest spots, start taking notes! Here are some tips to explore her entire body.

01Zoning Laws

Out of the Way

The obvious erogenous zones are so, well, obvious. Why not start somewhere new? Instead of heading right for her breast, why not caress her face, nibble her ear lobes, stroke her hair, kiss her neck, rub her belly, squeeze her butt, or even just hold her hand.

02Up in the Mountains

The breasts, topped so pointedly by the clusters of nerve endings in the sensitive nipples, are many men’s first stop on the road to arousal. Squeeze gently and don’t overdo it unless she expresses a desire – her nipples might appreciate being lightly rolled between the fingers, or sucked gently between your lips. Don’t bite!

03Over the Hill

The “mons pubis” is the fatty mound of flesh under her pubic hair, cushioning a woman’s pubic bone. The area isn’t particularly sensitive, especially if it is covered in hair, but pressure here can stimulate all the other areas of the vulva below.

04Loose Lips

On the other side of the mons, holding in all the more sensitive parts between her legs, the outer labia is the first to get red and puffy as her arousal levels rise. The thin inner lips are are much finer and also make up the clitoral hood, which protects her “little hill” from your more aggressive advances.

05Little Bits

The clitoris is the key to orgasm for a vast majority of women, so if you haven’t learned to manipulate it like a master, it’s time to begin. It may look small and perhaps even insignificant, but the actual size of the clitoris, buried deep in the pelvic wall, rivals that of the average penis.

This complex of nerves and tissues is incredibly sensitive to touch both on the outside of the vulva and from inside the vagina, where fingers in particular are amazing tools for finding the extra special spots that hide inside.

06Skene Tight

Most men don’t think of the urethra as a sexual component to the genitals, but the little exit valve not only contains a small amount of erectile tissue which responds to stimulation, but houses the infamous Skene’s Gland, the mysterious spot that produces the fluid ejaculated during a G-Spot orgasm. A little lick or flick of the urethral opening is a great way to ease her into squirting stimulation!

07The Jade Chamber

Once your fingers find their way inside your wife’s vagina, you have a virtual 360 degrees of pleasure to give her! You can try to imagine the cylindrical opening as a clock face, slowly exploring around in circles, using smaller circular motions to determine her more sensitive spots, both shallow and deep.

08Back to Back

Don’t head for her back door until you’ve really mastered some other skills. If she is relaxed and ready to go from her first (few?) orgasms, she’s much more likely to enjoy a finger in her rear. If she isn’t quite ready to be anally penetrated, you can stimulate her clitoral complex by massaging her perineum, the smooth flesh between her vagina and her anus.

Find her hot spots, hold on tight and don’t let go!

Have a sexy week,Gabrielle MooreThe voice of Naked U · Who we are

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